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Free Online Antenatal Course!

It’s not often in life that we get something free that’s also high quality and incredibly useful. Today, however, is an exception! Aimed at parents-to-be, those due to give birth imminently, and those who have recently had a child, the Complete Antenatal Course is currently available for zero cost. That’s despite it having an RRP of £175 and containing 8 hours of fabulously informative content. Access to the entire course is attainable quickly, without needing to add any kind of payment method. Other than there being some brief commercial interludes from the course’s sponsor, there are genuinely no strings attached. So, if you’re interested in learning about everything on the journey from pregnancy, through labour, to breastfeeding, infant care and first aid, this is for you. What’s more, the video format allows you to dip in and out at times to suit you. Read on to learn how to gain easy access to the Complete Antenatal Course today.

How to Get Free Course Access

To get access to the Complete Antenatal Course, visit this link and sign up free. We managed it in just moments and did not have to enter any payment details whatsoever. In no time at all, we had full access to the course. Easy!

Free? Is There a Catch?

There is no catch other than there being a couple of unobtrusive commercial clips from the course provider’s commercial sponsor (Joie) — but that’s really it!

About the Course Provider

The free antenatal course is provided online by NowBaby, who provide online courses and in-person antenatal education to expectant parents in the UK. NowBaby works in partnership with the NHS antenatal clinics too, and has done so for over two decades. Their website states that courses are provided by experienced midwives and healthcare professionals, however parents are urged to do their own due diligence as we cannot make guarantees about third parties. That said, we’ve looked through the modules in the 8 hour course and were thoroughly impressed. The course is easy to access and is available free — assuming, of course, that no premium upgrades are chosen when applying. If required, though, parents can choose to upgrade so they have access to speak with midwives or take part in Q&A sessions during the course.

Course Content

Presented by experienced midwives and healthcare professionals, the course is provided in convenient video modules that you can peruse at your own leisure. You’ll have received a login during the sign-up process, so will be able to log in and out at will. We also found the course remembered where we’d got to in the previous session, thereby making it easy to continue where we left off.

The course has 10 modules, which are each divided into convenient sub-sections — it’s all very convenient and user-friendly. The modules and sub-sections covered include:

Pregnancy

  • Choosing your care provider
  • The antenatal appointment schedule
  • Diet in pregnancy
  • Self care in pregnancy
  • Possible pregnancy complications
  • Informed choice and consent

Preparing the Mind & Body for Birth

  • What affects the birth experience
  • Birth place choices
  • What to pack in your birth/hospital bag
  • Birth preferences (birth plan)
  • Hormones and labour
  • The birth zone
  • Perineal massage

Labour & Birth

  • Optimal foetal position
  • Signs leading up to labour
  • Am I in labour?
  • The first, second, and third stages of labour
  • Transitional labour
  • Optimal cord clamping
  • Skin to skin
  • Birth partners
  • Assisted births

Pain Management

  • Hypnobirthing
  • Water
  • TENS machines
  • Entonox (gas and air)
  • Opiods
  • Epidurals

Induction of Labour

  • What is an induction of labour?
  • Induction – decision making
  • Methods of induction
  • Starting the process
  • Pain relief

Caesareans

  • Possible reasons for a caesarean
  • Giving birth
  • Going home after a caesarean

Postnatal Recovery

  • Blood loss
  • Breast changes
  • Perineal tears
  • Emotional and mental health
  • Common postpartum concerns

Newborn Care

  • The Golden Hour
  • Newborn checks
  • Dressing your baby
  • Swaddling
  • Top and tail cleaning
  • Bathing your baby
  • Newborn sleep
  • Nappy changing preparation
  • How to change a nappy
  • Jaundice
  • Baby poo

Breastfeeding

  • Breastfeeding introduction
  • Anatomy and physiology of breastfeeding
  • The benefits of breastfeeding
  • Establishing breastfeeding
  • Responsive feeding
  • Expressing/pumping
  • Cluster feeding
  • Breastfeeding problems
  • Final words on breastfeeding

Infant First Aid & Medical Conditions

  • Introduction
  • Breathing
  • Colds & snuffles
  • Coughing & wheezing
  • Choking
  • Periodic breathing
  • Basic life support
  • Vomiting, reflux & constipation
  • Dehydration
  • Poo colour
  • Newborn screening introduction
  • NIPE examination
  • Growth and centiles
  • Newborn blood spot test (heel prick)
  • Baby hearing test
  • Taking a temperature
  • Fever after vaccination
  • Fever medication
  • Plagiocephaly or Head Shape Syndrome

That’s some scope, isn’t it? We thought it was fabulous and packed with high-quality content, hence sharing it with you today. If you give it a try, we’re sure you’ll feel better informed and equipped for your parenting journey. We hope that it empowers you during every stage of pregnancy, through birth, and well into parenthood. Our very best wishes to you and your little one.

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A Complete Guide to Gentle Parenting

In a follow-up to our Rough Guide to Parenting Styles and subsequent Complete Guide to Authoritative Parenting, we now take a deeper dive into Gentle Parenting. There has been much discussion and debate around this style of parenting in recent times, particularly on social media platforms. The style has experienced great popularity among many parents, but has also drawn criticism from others. There has also been some confusion about where it sits in comparison to other similar styles. Is it the same, or different? Well, one could argue that gentle parenting is somewhere between permissive parenting and ‘pure’ authoritative parenting. It has similarities to both, particularly authoritative parenting, and could be described as a softer version, or even a sub-category, of it. Part of today’s guide will touch on such similarities as well as clear differences between the three styles. We’ll also take a look at any benefits or challenges associated with the gentle parenting style. With all that in mind, welcome to today’s Complete Guide to Gentle Parenting.

What is Gentle Parenting?

At the heart of Gentle Parenting is empathy, kindness, respect, and a close bond between a parent and child.At the heart of Gentle Parenting is empathy, kindness, respect, and a close bond between a parent and child. Such connections are given priority over control and obedience, and there are no punishments as such. Instead, gentle parenting uses a type of “positive discipline” where children’s behaviour is guided softly, in a measured way, without fear, threat, or punishment. ‘Gentle’ parents work with children to solve a problem collaboratively while, of course, acting to keep them and everyone else safe.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that gentle parenting gives children no discipline and no boundaries. It gives them both, but they are applied in gentle, empathetic, reasoned, and collaborative ways.

That said, it’s important to understand that gentle parenting is not the same as permissive parenting, where it could be argued that anything goes so long as children are happy. In contrast, with gentle parenting, rules and boundaries are imposed — albeit through empathy, explanation, and sympathetic guidance. Respectful communication, the acknowledgement of children’s feelings — even when behaviours are challenging — and an understanding of young children’s developmental limitations are all part of this. After all, under-fives have ‘big’ emotions and don’t always understand why their feelings are as they are, nor why their emotions sometimes reach a tipping point.

“Every single behaviour communicates some sort of unmet need or underdeveloped skill.” — Kelly Medina Enos, Parenting Coach.

So, with gentle parenting, parents very much tune into children’s emotions and listen carefully to their opinions, needs, and perspectives. They then gently reason with children not so much to tell them what they can’t do, but more to explain what they can do. So, for example, rather than saying ‘No!’ to a toddler trying to climb onto a coffee table, they may instead tell them it’s better to keep their feet on the ground so they don’t fall off and hurt themselves. It works many times because young children often switch off to too many negative commands like ‘Stop that!’ and ‘No’. That said, there are, of course, times when such exclamations cannot be avoided, for example, during times of imminent danger when urgency is paramount so as to keep a child from harm.

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Key Traits of Gentle Parenting

Gentle parenting typically has the following traits:

  • It has a high level of emotional warmth towards the child.
  • Its discipline style is very soft and empathetic.
  • Rules and boundaries exist, but have a high degree of flexibility.
  • Consequences (i.e. threats or imposition of punishments) are usually avoided.
  • There is a high level of connection between the parent and the child.
  • Parents work with the child through collaboration.

How Does Gentle Parenting Differ From Authoritative Parenting?

Gentle parenting shares most of authoritative parenting’s values — kindness, respect, emotional warmth and deep connections between parent and child — and could even be described as a sub-category or variant of that model. However, there are some subtle traits of gentle parenting that separate it a little from the ‘pure’ authoritative parenting model. With gentle parenting, power struggles and conflict are avoided and therefore parents rarely threaten or apply ‘consequences’. In contrast, the authoritative parenting approach to discipline could be described as more clearly structured and firm, although also remaining empathetic. And, while both styles require parents to listen carefully to children and guide rather than forcefully controlling them, gentle parenting allows comparatively more flexibility in the application of the rules, structure, and boundaries. As the name implies, gentle parenting is exactly that — more gentle in its approach — and treats children in the way that we might perhaps have appreciated ourselves when we were children. It should not, however, be confused with permissive parenting, which we’ll compare below.

How Does Gentle Parenting Compare to Permissive Parenting?

While gentle parenting uses a softer approach to the pure version of authoritative parenting, it is by no means as soft as permissive parenting. While all three value kindness, respect, emotional warmth and deep connections, permissive parenting goes further by reducing boundaries and structure almost completely. Happiness is prioritised at the expense of structure and consistency. Indeed, one could argue that, with permissive parenting, anything goes. That is not the case with gentle parenting, which applies structure, rules, and boundaries, albeit in a softly-softly, collaborative way.

“Gentle parenting does not equate to permissiveness. It involves setting clear and consistent boundaries while offering children age-appropriate choices within those boundaries. This fosters a sense of autonomy and helps children learn to make responsible decisions” — PositivePsychology.com

The Benefits of Gentle Parenting

Because so much focus is given to understanding and validating a child’s perspective and emotions, a child raised through gentle parenting will feel more ‘heard’ than with many other parenting styles. They will also be dealing with a parent who is calm, kind, and respectful to them. That is good role-modelling and, as such, is an approach that a child is more likely to adopt.

Gentle parenting usually also results in deep, loving and healthy connections between parent and child — long-term bonds that form a strong and important backbone to family life.

As with ‘pure’ authoritative parenting, children raised via the gentle parenting variant tend to have healthy levels of resilience, self-esteem, confidence, and emotional intelligence. They will feel heard, respected, and understood by parents, with whom they have secure and trusting bonds. Interestingly, they also tend to become higher academic achievers than those brought up with contrasting parenting models.

Challenges Associated With Gentle Parenting

While gentle parenting has become very popular amongst young families in recent years, being a comparatively new term also means that not much academic research exists about it. So, it’s tricky to scientifically compare it to other parenting styles that may have more evidence attached to them — for example, ‘pure’ authoritative parenting, which has been studied for years and is often cited as the ‘gold standard’ of parenting models.

There is also a danger that, if applied too softly, gentle parenting could drift more towards permissive parenting, an indulgent model where anything goes, and happiness is given priority over the learning of rules, self-discipline, self-control, responsibility, and perhaps even accountability.

Another potential challenge for parents switching for the first time to gentle parenting is the possible need for them to adapt their use of language. Initially, for example, it can be tricky to consistently avoid negative commands (‘No!’, ‘Don’t do that!’, ‘Stop!’, etc.) in favour of explaining what a child can do instead. Likewise, it may be difficult, at first, to remember to listen proactively to the child’s perspective and only then show or explain logically what an appropriate behaviour or action might be. Such things are opportunities for teachable moments, though, and are therefore potentially much more powerful than barking orders without explanation or empathy.

Key Takeaways — Which Parenting Style is Best?

Is there a ‘best’ parenting style? Well, each has its own benefits and challenges, and parents may, by necessity, sometimes need to switch between models depending on the situation. Some, however, are clearly better for children than others. Indeed, as we’ve said before, authoritative parenting has, for some years, been seen as the gold standard of parenting styles. And gentle parenting is often cited as simply a softer version of it. By definition, therefore, gentle parenting has significant and proven merits. It’s therefore not surprising that it’s so popular on parent forums and social media. (That is except, of course, when it’s mistaken for permissive parenting, which it is not).

Weighing up all the pros and cons of the various parenting styles, one could easily argue that the sweet spot is close to authoritative and properly executed gentle parenting — there is little doubt that outcomes are very good with each. However, how styles are best chosen or blended by parents will depend on several things. Factors will include the specific situation, the child’s age, their temperament, and, to an extent, how much time a parent has available in that moment. The best styles take time — but are hugely beneficial to the child. There will be a few times, however, when they just won’t cut it, like when a child is about to do something extremely dangerous — an abrupt and authoritarian ‘Stop!’ will always have its place in such urgent situations. There is no doubt that parenting is hard. It is okay, therefore, that it’s most likely to be a balancing act between styles as situations present themselves. That said, parents could do much worse than choosing gentle or authoritative parenting as their core style.

“There’s no one-size-fits-all, and you don’t have to commit to a label. The best parenting style is the one that helps you build a strong, respectful relationship with your child—while guiding them to thrive in the real world.” — WholeMindPsychology.com

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Complete Guide to Authoritative Parenting: Its Benefits and Positive Outcomes

Our preceding article explained, in brief, the key differences between commonly discussed parenting styles. Today, we look at one of them, Authoritative Parenting, in much more detail. It’s a style that’s generally well thought of amongst researchers and developmental psychologists, as well as many parents who’ve used the approach. Indeed it is a style that’s often recommended because of the way it balances empathetic nurturing with the application of rules. While it’s important to remember that there is no single ‘best’ parenting style for every situation, authoritative parenting does seem to result in very good outcomes and is thought by many to be the ‘gold standard’ for children and teens. Let’s take a deeper dive.

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It’s important not to confuse authoritative parenting with authoritarian parenting. Despite the similar names, the two styles could not be more different. See our Rough Guide to Parenting Styles for a quick overview of the differences.

The Origins of Authoritative Parenting

The Authoritative Parenting model was originally developed at the University of California in 1966 by Diana Baumrind. That said, it has evolved over the decades since, with backing from developmental research. It’s a style that seems to work well for children of all ages as well as teenagers.

Exactly What is Authoritative Parenting?

The authoritative parenting style uses an age-appropriate — and finely-tuned — balance between responsiveness (towards children) and demandingness (from children).

The Responsiveness Element

The responsiveness element of authoritative parenting refers to the high levels of warmth, empathy, love, and understanding shown to the child by the parent. Authoritative parents are deeply attuned to their children’s feelings, needs, abilities, and perspectives. They gauge such things and weigh up the balance at any given time. Only then do they respond, in a way they feel is most appropriate, having borne the bigger picture in mind.

The Demandingness Element

The demandingness element of authoritative parenting refers to the level of control over and desired expectation from their child. Standards and boundaries are enforced but in a very measured, kind, and thoughtful way. Authoritative parents use a two-way communication approach to makes clear what’s expected from their children. They will discuss and explain things, often in advance. In this way, the child not only knows what to expect, but also understands why it is expected. That’s in stark contrast to some of the other parenting models that expect blind obedience without explanation.

What About Discipline?

Strong assertions of parental power and harsh discipline are seldom, if ever, used with the authoritative parenting style. If they are used, it would tend to be only as a last resort and most likely only in a ‘danger’ scenario. An example would be shouting at a child to stop them running out into a busy road.

Achievements Are Celebrated

As well as thoughtful guiding of children, their achievements, however small or large, are celebrated. In this way, positive outcomes are used to further encourage children to continue using a good approach and appropriate behaviour.

Key Elements of Authoritative Parenting:

  • Warmth and empathy towards the child
  • A firm but fair and nurturing approach
  • The child’s feelings are always considered
  • High levels of involvement by parents
  • The setting of age-appropriate standards
  • A clear structure with well-defined rules
  • Reframing mistakes as learning opportunities

  • Praise and rewards in favour of punishments
  • Where discipline is used, parents explain why
  • Children having some input into goal setting
  • Clear communication from parent to child
  • Encouraging communication from the child
  • The celebrating of the child’s achievements
  • Positive relationships between parent and child

Likely Outcomes for Children Raised Through Authoritative Parenting

Compared to children raised via other parenting styles, children and adolescents raised through an authoritative parenting approach have very favourable outcomes. This has been backed up by many studies. For starters, they usually perform better academically and are well-motivated to succeed. They are often creative, take the initiative, and are highly curious intellectually. They’re self-reliant and independent, with good self-control and a good awareness of appropriate boundaries. Risk assessment is good. They also tend to be happy, have better mental health, and good emotional regulation. They also have good social skills, are respectful to others, and have a healthy level of self-esteem. They have a healthy level of connection to both friends and parents. Studies also find that children raised by authoritative parents are less likely to go on to misuse drugs or alcohol. It’s a comprehensive suite of benefits.

Are There Any Pitfalls of Authoritative Parenting?

There are few, if any, pitfalls to well-executed authoritative parenting. Perhaps the only consideration relates to the amount of focus, effort, and consistency required on the part of the parents. While such a balance is totally feasible in the most part, perhaps on extra-busy, tiring, or stressful days, one could be forgiven for letting things slip a little.

Final Thoughts

Any parenting style(s) may, of course, require continual adjustment because life seldom travels in a straight, predictable line. For example, when it comes to authoritative parenting, sometimes the balance between warmth and expectations may need to tilt more in one direction than the other. This could be because of a specific scenario. One that involves an urgent safety concern would be a classic example. At other times, however, the balance between the two may tilt back the other way because the situation has changed. In essence, it all comes back to the balance between ‘responsiveness’ and ‘demandingness’ that we discussed earlier. Indeed, it is a fine balance, and it’s not always possible to get it 100% right; parenting is challenging and, at the end of the day, we can only do our best in the circumstances that life throws at us.

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Rough Guide to Parenting Styles

Parenting can feel overwhelming at times, especially in the early years when babies, toddlers and preschoolers are growing and changing rapidly. So, it’s natural for parents to self-reflect and ask themselves whether their particular parenting approach is the most appropriate for their child. Are they getting it right? Do they intervene too much, are boundaries too vague, is discipline too lenient, or are they too strict? It’s often difficult to know what’s best. Moreover, what exactly are the differences between gentle parenting, permissive parenting, authoritative parenting and the many other parenting styles? It can be confusing!

In light of such conundrums, today’s guide helps to briefly explain many of the different parenting styles that you may have heard of or read about. These are broad parenting styles that have, over time, been identified by researchers, early years professionals, social media, and the press. They aren’t labels to judge parents by, but helpful ways of understanding how adults can balance warmth, boundaries, involvement and independence to varying degrees. Each combination will affect a child — and outcomes — in different ways. What’s more, your family situation, the child’s age, the stage of their development, and other factors may all play a part in deciding which could be the best fit. Take a look and see which style(s) may be the most appropriate for you and your child.

Authoritative parenting

Authoritative parenting is often seen as a strong foundation for early childhood.Authoritative parenting is often seen as a strong, nurturing foundation for early childhood. It’s balanced somewhere between permissive parenting and authoritarian parenting.

With the authoritative parenting style, parents set age-appropriate rules, while children are encouraged to express their feelings and opinions. Parents remain calm, confident leaders and reason with their children. Such an approach can be particularly reassuring for toddlers and preschoolers, who need adults to set safe limits while they learn to better understand the world around them.

Benefits: Children raised with this approach often develop strong self-esteem, emotional regulation, and resilience. They tend to feel secure, understood, and confident in exploring the world. Evidence also suggests that they are higher academic achievers.

Challenges: This style requires time, emotional energy and consistency on the part of the parent, which can sometimes be difficult, for example, during periods of stress or exhaustion.

Learn much more about authoritative parenting here.

It’s important not to confuse Authoritative parenting with Authoritarian parenting, which we’ll come to next.

Authoritarian parenting

Authoritarian parenting is a style that's highly structured, but low in emotional flexibility.Authoritarian parenting is a style that’s highly structured, but low in emotional flexibility. With this parenting style, parents expect blind obedience without question, don’t often explain the reasons for rules, and are highly controlling.

Benefits: Children may learn discipline and clear rules quickly.

Challenges: This approach can limit emotional expression, independence and confidence. Some children may comply outwardly while struggling internally, for example, with anxiety and low self-esteem.

Gentle parenting

Gentle parenting uses a relationship-led approach that's rooted in empathy.Gentle parenting is rather like a softer variant of authoritative parenting and uses a relationship-led approach that’s rooted in empathy.

Boundaries still exist, but they are maintained calmly and without punishment. Rather than constantly saying ‘No!’ and ‘Don’t do that!’ parents collaborate with children and agree what they can instead do. This can be especially helpful in the early years, when babies and toddlers are learning to understand big emotions that they can’t yet understand or control.

Benefits: Gentle parenting supports emotional intelligence, secure attachment and trust. With this approach, children learn that their feelings are valid, respected, and manageable, whilst being offered age-appropriate choices within clear boundaries set by parents.

Challenges: If boundaries are allowed to become unclear or inconsistently maintained, gentle parenting can be confusing to the child, or unintentionally drift towards permissive parenting.

Learn more about gentle parenting here.

Permissive parenting

Permissive parenting prioritises happiness, but structure and consistency are limited.Permissive parenting (sometimes also known as ‘indulgent parenting’) utilises a loving and warm approach towards children, but is often under-structured due to a reluctance to enforce rules.

The intention is usually to protect the relationship and prioritise happiness, especially during emotionally intense toddler or preschool years. However, this comes at the expense of both structure and consistency, which are limited.

Benefits: Children may feel emotionally supported, have high self-esteem, and feel free to express themselves. They are often also quite resourceful.

Challenges: A lack of clear boundaries can make it harder for children to develop self-regulation. They can therefore become less responsible and lack self-discipline. Limits would otherwise help children feel safe and better understand expectations. Studies have even shown a correlation between a permissive upbringing and sleep problems, as well as somewhat lower levels of academic performance.

Helicopter parenting

Helicopter parenting means that parents are very involved — sometimes too involved.Helicopter parenting means that parents are very involved — sometimes too involved — often micromanaging the child’s every move.

Over-intervention (or ‘over-parenting’) can limit opportunities for problem-solving, independence and resilience in children. In early years settings, children benefit from trying things for themselves and learning through trial and error — with a trusted adult close by to offer guidance if needed, rather than stepping in immediately.

Benefits: Children may feel well-supported and protected.

Challenges: Over-involvement can reduce resilience, independence, problem-solving abilities, and confidence, having reduced opportunities for the child to learn from mistakes. It has also been linked to a feeling of entitlement when children are older, anxiety, depression, and more.

Velcro parenting

Velcro parenting denotes a strong level of closeness, and slow level of separation.Velcro parenting denotes a strong level of closeness and a slow level of separation — a kind of hyper-involvement.

With velcro parenting, the parent seems closely attached to the child in every way — physically, emotionally, socially, and so on.  They will shadow their child’s activities and experiences, getting closely involved at every step.

Benefits: Children may feel deeply connected, nurtured, understood, and emotionally secure in their parents’ presence.

Challenges: This style can unintentionally increase separation anxiety and make transitions harder, particularly when babies grow into toddlers and begin nursery or preschool. Independence and resilience may develop more slowly. Parents may also be adversely affected by this parenting style, particularly if the child has, in turn, become a ‘velcro child’ or baby, leading to separation anxiety.

Uninvolved parenting

Uninvolved parenting is evidenced by low engagement and limited support for the child.Uninvolved parenting (also sometimes known as ‘neglectful parenting’) is evidenced by low engagement, a low level of warmth, and limited support for the child.

This parenting style is sometimes linked to external pressures, stress, or a lack of support. It’s important to note that families that it applies to may need understanding and help, rather than judgement.

Benefits: It seems counterintuitive, as a parent, to think of any benefits of uninvolved parenting for a child. That said, children affected may develop independence, self-reliance and problem-solving skills — purely out of necessity.

Challenges: Children may struggle with emotional security, attachment, behaviour and self-worth due to a lack of parental warmth, support, and consistent boundaries.

Is there a ‘best’ parenting style for young children?

Research consistently suggests that approaches combining warmth, responsiveness and clear boundaries — such as authoritative and well-applied gentle parenting — best support children’s emotional wellbeing and long-term development, particularly in the crucial early years from birth to five.

At Little Cedars Day Nursery, we work in partnership with families, recognising that parenting — especially in the baby, toddler and preschool years — is a journey. By understanding these different styles, parents can make informed, confident choices that support their child’s growth, both at home and in early years settings. We may publish more comprehensive information about each individual style in future blog posts, so do come back to our blog area regularly — new articles are added at least twice every month.

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Get Ready for Children’s Mental Health Week This February

Each year, February marks the date for Children’s Mental Health Week. It is the perfect opportunity to reflect on how we can all contribute to improving children’s mental wellbeing. Often overlooked in favour of a focus on ‘physical’ health, good mental health for children is, of course, profoundly important. This special week occurs every year during February and has done so for over a decade. Let’s take a closer look today and see how the initiative can both inspire and empower parents and families to help children’s mental health thrive.

“Around 50% of mental health conditions are established before age 14.” — Place2Be (Children’s Mental Health Charity).

What & When is Children’s Mental Health Week?

Children’s Mental Health Week is designed to bring greater awareness around the mental health of children. It aims to give children a voice, empower them, and give them the tools to thrive. It is a UK initiative originally launched in 2015 by Place2Be, a charity that focuses on children’s mental health.

In 2026, Children’s Mental Health Week will be from Monday the 9th to Sunday the 15th of February inclusive.

The Theme for 2026

Children's Mental Health Week 2026 - official video.Each year, the event has a theme. The theme for 2026 is ‘This is My Place’. It brings a focus to the need, by every child, to feel they belong. Whether it’s to a friendship group, peers at their nursery or school, their family, a club, or a team of some kind, it’s incredibly important for every child to feel they belong. Hence, the theme ‘This is My Place’ for 2026. Click the thumbnail image or this link to launch the official video.

“To know our place and really feel part of our environment is a basic human need. It can have powerful and long-lasting impacts in lots of areas of our lives, including our physical and mental health, education, employment and relationships. When we feel that we belong, it empowers us to contribute to the world and make a real difference.” — Place2Be.

By feeling they belong, children will feel that they are connected, accepted, and valued for who they are. That’s important for children of any age and, in turn, will help them feel happy and safe. It will also teach them to be more inclusive and kind towards others, so no child feels alone or an outsider.

“As parents and carers, you play an important role in your child’s wellbeing.” — Place2Be.

Resources for Families of Children — Including Under 5s

Although the charity that founded Children’s Mental Health Week is primarily involved in supporting children in schools, the overall theme applies equally well to pre-school children under five. Indeed, the Place2Be charity has support and resources that fit perfectly with helping good mental health in children in their early years. Families can download free resources here, and useful information for parents and carers here.

How Can Families Help Children?

To facilitate children’s good mental health, parents and carers have a number of ways to help children, including under-fives, to feel that they fit in and are valued. A few examples include:

  • Enrolling them in environments like clubs, nurseries, and sports teams, and nurturing their participation in friendship groups.
  • Taking an avid interest in the child’s interests — getting involved, asking them questions about what they’re passionate about, and encouraging them in associated activities.
  • Taking the time to be present with your child, engaging with them proactively during activities they’re interested in, and avoiding other distractions whilst doing so.
  • Encouraging activities that clearly make them happy and feel safe.
  • Allowing them to choose and steer activities, while also allowing them to explore other pastimes that may be new to them.
  • Listening, allowing them to speak, encouraging and reassuring them at every step.
  • Ensuring they have a warm, comfortable space of their own where they can play while feeling safe and nurtured.
  • Providing consistency so that bonds with siblings, friends, and peers can grow and flourish.
  • Encouraging those relationships that look to be the most healthy for your child, while withdrawing them from toxic environments that don’t look healthy.
  • Being your child’s biggest cheerleader — applauding their achievements and boosting their self-worth and confidence.
  • Talking with children to explore their feelings around belonging, being included, being important, being liked by peers, being loved by family, and being enormously valued.

“1 in 5 children currently has a probable mental health disorder.” — Place2Be.

With it being likely that 1 in 5 children has a mental health disorder and around half of such disorders being established before the age of 14, it’s never been more important to address the issue. As parents and carers, we need to be conscious of the issues, aware of the possible signs, and equipped with the tools to support our children. Learn more about Children’s Mental Health Week and some of the support available here. A non-profit called MindForward Alliance also has an excellent toolkit for parents whose children are experiencing mental health difficulties. Download the toolkit here.

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Ofsted rates Little Cedars Day Nursery as a Good ProviderLittle Cedars is a nursery & preschool offering high-quality childcare in Streatham, near Tooting, Tooting Bec, Tooting Common, Tooting Broadway, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury, and Colliers Wood.Do you have a child under five and live in Streatham or close by? Little Cedars Nursery provides high-quality childcare in Streatham, and we’re conveniently close to families in Streatham Common, Streatham Hill, Streatham Park, Tooting, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury, and Colliers Wood. Rated ‘Good’ in all categories by Ofsted, we also support free childcare hours for eligible children from the age of 9 months to 5 years.

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A New Approach to Ofsted Ratings: A Guide for Parents

A new approach to Ofsted ratings officially launched in November 2025, as part of a new Education Inspection Framework. Parents of children attending early years settings, schools, and further education, will therefore soon begin to see the new-style Ofsted ‘Report Cards’ that will be published following inspections. These are designed to replace — and improve upon — the previous one-word Ofsted rating system, which had become controversial. Gone will be what became known as the “single word judgements” on settings (previously a choice between Outstanding, Good, Requires Improvement, or Inadequate). Instead, parents will see a much more detailed ‘Report Card’ that combines at-a-glance headline information with multiple sub-section details. The idea is to give parents a more comprehensive view of how schools and settings measure up across a broad range of performance metrics, as well as providing important context. In essence, parents will be able to easily and quickly identify areas of strength, as well as those that require development. In today’s post, we take a look at Ofsted’s new Report Card and explain how it works.

The New Performance Metrics

The single ‘Overall Effectiveness’ grade has now been retired. Instead, Ofsted will assess settings across a range of key areas and confirm their evaluation of each one separately on the new Report Card. For each, they will use a 5-point scale, with the exception of Safeguarding, which we’ll come to separately in a moment.

The 5-Point Assessment Scale

Example of the new Ofsted report card.Except for Safeguarding, the new Report Card will show Ofsted’s evaluation of each of the assessment areas as one of the following:

  • Exceptional — the highest quality provision (indicated in blue);
  • Strong standard (indicated in dark green);
  • Expected standard (indicated in bright green);
  • Needs attention (indicated in orange); or
  • Urgent improvement (indicated in red).

The Report Card will use colour-coding, as indicated above in brackets.

Key Areas of Assessment

For Early Years Settings

For early years settings, Ofsted will evaluate the following areas of provision:

  • Safeguarding,
  • Inclusion,
  • Curriculum and teaching,
  • Achievement,
  • Behaviour, attitudes and establishing routines,
  • Children’s welfare and well-being, and
  • Leadership and governance.

For Schools

For schools* inspected by Ofsted, they will evaluate a slightly different list of key areas:

  • Safeguarding,
  • Inclusion,
  • Curriculum and teaching,
  • Achievement,
  • Attendance and behaviour,
  • Personal development and well-being, and
  • Leadership and governance.

* Early years and/or sixth form education will also be assessed if schools provide them. In parallel to the above, independent schools will also continue to be assessed against the ‘independent schools standards’.

For Further Education & Skills Providers

The list of key areas of assessment for further education settings and skills providers is longer still. As today’s guide pertains to younger children, however, such a list can be viewed separately here.

Safeguarding

Because the safety and welfare of children is paramount, Ofsted’s assessment of a setting’s Safeguarding features separately in the new Ofsted Report Card. That’s for all types of settings, whether they’re early years providers, schools, further education, or skills providers.

How will that look? The new Report Card will show the result for the assessment of Safeguarding clearly as either Met (with a green tick) or Not Met. More detail will be available by opening a drop-down ‘show/hide’ selector and sub-link (shown below).

Ofsted's assessment of Safeguarding features separately in the new Ofsted Report Card.

More Details on the Ofsted Report Cards

As well as assigning a finding of either Met or Not Met to the Safeguarding element and rating each of the other key areas using the 5-point scale, Ofsted will provide extra narrative to explain each of the findings in more detail. In tandem with this, additional commentary will provide contextual information, such as any relevant SEND, demographic, or other factors that may explain the story behind the grades. Additional narrative providing an overview of what it’s like to attend the setting will also be included. These expandable narrative sections will be displayed below the more prominent colour-coded assessment grid and Safeguarding section.

Ofsted will provide extra narrative, via expandable sub-sections, to explain each of the findings in more detail.

Final Thoughts

The new Ofsted report cards intend to give families both an at-a-glance snapshot and more comprehensive details that outline strengths — and any areas that require development — for educational settings like nurseries, schools, colleges, etc. By showing their evaluation of a whole raft of key areas in this way, Ofsted is aiming to give parents a clearer picture of each setting. That’s in stark contrast to the historical “single word judgements” that we’ve been used to – until now. It does make sense — after all, no single word can ever tell the whole story or sum up a unique and complex service.

Not everyone is convinced the changes go far enough. However, Sir Martyn Oliver, His Majesty’s Chief Inspector for Education, Children’s Services and Skills, has said that the new system should be fairer and better for parents, while also providing tangible and financial support to any settings in difficulty. The government expects the new system to raise standards for children, which is incredibly important — and what it’s all about at the end of the day. Learn about the new education inspection framework in more detail here.

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How to Handle Toddler Tantrums — A Parent’s Guide

Tantrums are a common part of life with toddlers and under-fives.Tantrums are a common part of life with toddlers and under-fives, but when they happen, they can be very challenging! Whether it’s a meltdown at dinner time or a dramatic on-the-floor outburst in the middle of the supermarket aisle, they can test even the most patient of parents and carers. However, it’s important to understand that tantrums aren’t a sign that something is wrong — they’re actually a normal, healthy stage of child development.

Today’s guide aims to offer practical, reassuring advice on how to understand and respond to tantrums, without resorting to shouting or feeling like you’re failing as a parent.

Why Toddlers Have Tantrums

Young children can be overwhelmed by big emotions because their brains are still developing, but they haven’t yet mastered language, impulse control, and emotional regulation.In their early years, children are still learning how to manage big emotions. There’s a mismatch, though; their brains are developing rapidly, but they haven’t yet mastered language, impulse control, or emotional regulation. So, when they’re tired, hungry, overstimulated, or frustrated, it can all become too much for them. That’s when the crying, kicking, shouting, or collapsing to the floor can occur and, considering they’re such small people, it can be quite something!

Tantrums aren’t usually “naughty” behaviour. They’re expressions of overwhelming emotion. A toddler might not be able to say “I’m frustrated because I wanted the red toy, not the blue one,” but they can certainly show it.

What to Do in the Moment

Stay Calm & Composed

When a tantrum starts, staying calm is key.When a tantrum starts, staying calm yourself is key. Your child will take emotional cues from you, their trusted adult. If you can remain steady, even if you’re feeling flustered inside, you send the message that you’re in control—and that they’re safe.

Acknowledge Your Child’s Feelings

Try getting down to your child’s level and speaking softly. In the scenario quoted above in green, you could say, “I can see you’re really upset,” or “You’re feeling angry because you wanted something else.” Validating and labelling their emotions lets them know you understand, even if they still can’t get what they want. It also helps them understand and name what they’re feeling.

Make Allowances When They’re Overwhelmed

Make allowances when little ones are overwhelmed by big emotions.Avoid reasoning or explaining too much during a tantrum. When a child is overwhelmed, they’re unlikely to take much in. It’s often best to wait it out and stay close so they know they’re not alone. For some children, a gentle touch or hug might be helpful. Others may need a bit of space before they’re ready for comfort.

Focus on Your Child — Not Onlookers

If you’re in public and feel pressure from onlookers, try to block it out. What matters most is your child’s emotional development — not what strangers might think.

After the Storm

Once the tantrum has passed, your child might need a cuddle, a drink, or just a few quiet moments. Talk gently with them about what happened. This isn’t a time for lectures, but a moment to reconnect and help them feel secure again.

Perhaps say something like, “That was upsetting for you. Next time, let’s try using words to tell me how you feel.” Over time, this builds emotional awareness, communication skills, and trust.

Preventing Tantrums (When You Can)

While it’s impossible to prevent every tantrum, there are ways to reduce how often they happen.

  • While it’s impossible to prevent every tantrum, there are ways to reduce how often they happen.Offering limited choices — like “Would you like to wear the red jumper or the blue one?” — can also give them a sense of control without overwhelming them.
  • Being aware of your child’s triggers, such as tiredness or hunger — and planning accordingly — can make outings smoother and transitions easier.
  • Routine helps young children feel secure, so sticking to regular mealtimes and bedtimes can also make a big difference.

The Bigger Picture

It’s easy to feel judged, tired, or helpless when dealing with tantrums, especially during a long day or out in public. But every time you respond with calm, connection, and consistency, you’re helping your child build the tools they’ll need to manage emotions as they grow. Tantrums may not disappear overnight, but with understanding, patience, and time, they’ll become less frequent — and far more manageable.

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The Benefits of a Digital Detox & Why Families Should Try It

Unplugging electronic devices can offer meaningful benefits for little ones and their families.In today’s world, electronic screens are everywhere — from TVs  and smartphones to tablets and games consoles. Even our youngest children are growing up in increasingly digital environments. While technology brings many conveniences, intentionally unplugging can offer profound benefits for little ones and their families. Whether it’s for a day, a weekend, a holiday, or even longer, the value gained from a ‘digital detox’ may surprise even the most dubious amongst us. Today’s post investigates.

What Science Tells Us

Pausing the use of electronic screens can even help reset our perception of time, making days feel longer, fuller, and more engaged.Research consistently shows the positive effects of stepping away from our screens. Studies report that a digital detox can lead to decreased stress and anxiety, improved mood and well-being, and even better physical health through healthier, less sedentary, lifestyles. Pausing the use of electronic screens can even help reset our perception of time, making days feel longer, fuller, and more engaged.

For children, excessive screen use, especially before bedtime, can disrupt sleep. This is caused by electronic screens interfering with natural melatonin production, leading to delayed sleep onset and poor quality rest. It can also slow language development and impair attention, particularly for children under five, whose brains are undergoing rapid early development. In one study, toddlers watching three hours of TV a day were three times more likely to experience language delays and weaker school readiness skills.

The results from combined studies indicate that children who reduce screen time show fewer emotional difficulties, improved social behaviour, and greater prosocial tendencies including kindness and cooperation. In another real-world experiment, teens who took a 48-hour smartphone break noticed better sleep, more outdoor activity and stronger family interactions.

Learn more about the science of ‘green time vs. screen time’ here.

Why It Matters for Families

Parents who've tried time away from electronic screens report a renewed sense of connection and deeper engagement with their children.When families go screen-free, the benefits extend well beyond the individual. Removing screens often rekindles face-to-face interactions and facilitates more laughter and unfiltered conversations within the family. Parents who’ve tried it report a renewed sense of connection and deeper engagement with their children. Even short periods of unplugging can turn into lasting changes—more shared stories, more creative play, and more real presence.

Outdoor time plays a huge role too. Whether it’s a neighbourhood walk, a garden adventure, or imaginative forest-based play, nature helps cultivate curiosity, resilience and emotional regulation. Studies suggest that just 20 minutes spent in nature can make children significantly happier and help them learn to cooperate and handle challenges — all skills rarely honed by flicking through a screen. Similarly, nature-rich breaks support mental health and reduce the pull of addictive screen use. Studies found that even a view of a natural green space can enhance academic focus and grades — incredible! Learn more about how spending time closer to nature benefits children here.

Children’s emotional intelligence also deepens with the absence of screens as it encourages them to observe and interpret others’ feelings. For example, in a five-day unplugged camp, participants improved significantly in their ability to recognise emotional expressions, unlike peers who continued using devices.

Benefits Families Are Likely to Notice

After just one screen-free day, many families may notice:

  • During time away from electronic screens, families will notice enhanced awareness of each other’s company and children becoming more attentive to parents and siblings.Better sleep for everyone with children tending to drop off more easily and adults feeling more rested.
  • Evenings that are likely to feel longer and more relaxed.
  • Greater spontaneity and creativity as children talk, play, read, draw, and excitedly ask “What shall we do next?”
  • Enhanced awareness of each other’s company, with siblings rediscovering play together and children becoming more attentive to parents.
  • A pleasant atmosphere overall and a likely boost to everyone’s mood.

Possible Challenges & Their Solutions

Of course, removing electronic screens may not always be easy, especially at first. Families trying a digital detox may face some potential challenges. If so, there are gentle ways to manage them.

If children are resistant to the idea or complain that it’s going to be boring without electronic screens, try re-framing the break as an adventure rather than a restriction. Invite children to suggest activities — let them decide during the detox. Try presenting it as a shared family challenge rather than a rule.

Adults may worry about missing their devices too. However, parents modelling the detox by putting their own phones away will help children accept it too.

There is also the potential fear of missing out (FOMO) without access to electronic devices and social connections — particularly for older children. However, explaining that it’s just for a short time will help achieve acceptance of the idea. Acknowledge the temporary interference and encourage children to choose family connection and creativity first — it will help families stay on track.

There is the potential of failure if preparations have not been made before starting. So, in readiness, it’s advisable to prepare a list of screen-free ideas so the family can hit the ground running when they begin their digital detox (see suggestion #3 below).

How to Introduce a Detox Gently & Keep It Fun

Here are some tips to help ease families into a digital detox and set them up for success:

  1. Plan some entertaining and engrossing alternatives together.Begin by designating screen-free boundaries, such as bedrooms or mealtimes, and/or set a daily screen-free hour in the evening.
  2. Get children to buy into the idea by inviting them to help set the rules. Ask them “When are screens off?” and “What happens then?” They can be nudged in the right direction through discussion and helpful suggestions if they’re unsure.
  3. Plan those entertaining and engrossing alternatives together. Screen-free ideas could include reading together, making simple crafts, telling stories, going outdoors, cooking, playing music, dancing and fitness sessions, baking together, garden safaris, yoga sessions, board games — and so on.
  4. Celebrate small wins! For example, point out how much deeper and more restful sleep is, or how much more chatter there is at the breakfast table.
  5. Once screen-free moments become familiar, try graduating your family to a screen-free weekend or even a full holiday. Many families describe these as revelatory with any initial frustrations soon giving way to something deeper and more rewarding.

Final Thoughts

Without screens, children are likely to spend more time outdoors and benefit from everything nature and outdoor play have to offer.The evidence clearly shows: families who have periods free of electronic screens will benefit. A digital detox enriches and elongates days. It enhances sleep quality for children and adults by facilitating their natural rhythms. Days feel more spacious and calm without digital distractions and imaginative play soon steps in and thrives. In the absence of screens, children are also likely to get outdoors more often — and benefit from everything nature and outdoor play have to offer. Mental health and even academic grades are also likely to improve when this happens.

A digital detox isn’t about rejecting technology, though, as it has its place; it’s more about creating balance and discovering what’s been hidden. For example, deeper conversations, creative play, richer bonds, and nourishing rest. Whether it’s a screen-free Sunday, a tech-free teatime, or a weekend getaway without devices, these breaks can evolve into high-quality, cherished family time. Although at its heart a digital detox is the most simple of concepts, it’s likely to enhance family life in profound ways, whether for an afternoon or longer term.

With all that in mind, why not invite your child(ren) to get started by trying a screen-free afternoon this weekend? It could be the first step towards more fun, enhanced well-being, greater fulfilment and more genuine togetherness.

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Number & Counting Games for Preschoolers: Ideas for Under-5s
Early parental help can significantly boost children's understanding of numbers, counting, and maths terminology.Concepts involving numbers and counting can sometimes be tricky for some preschoolers to grasp. Making sense of such concepts is important, though, because many aspects of children’s day-to-day lives will require an increasing understanding of numbers as time passes. Whether it’s knowing if a quantity of something is more or less than something else, how much of an ingredient is required in a mixture, or what change to expect from a purchase, children will need to grasp number-based concepts — and understand their real-world applications. What’s more, they’ll need to do this sooner rather than later if they’re to thrive, not least when they leave early years settings to begin school.

Early parental help can significantly boost children’s understanding of numbers, counting, and maths terminology. One of the key ways to help preschoolers is through number and counting games. What’s more, by using games and playful challenges, learning number and counting concepts will be fun! That fun element will be a key to both success and enjoyment. Indeed, learning through play is, as we know, the very best way for young children to learn. With that said, let’s take a look at some examples of games and fun challenges that under-fives can take part in. With supervision and guidance from adults, these are a great way to boost comprehension of number-based concepts in little ones — and support the EYFS curriculum.

First Create Some Number Cards

Making ‘number cards’ with your child will be a fun and useful first step.Making ‘number cards’ with your child will be a fun and useful first step. These could be as simple as small pieces of paper or card, each having a single large number written clearly on them. Alternatively, your child could take the opportunity to get more creative. For example, you and your child could make the numbers bright and colourful, have patterned in-fills, or even be made to look like animals or number ‘characters’ that have eyes. For the very young, start with numbers up to 5, or go to 10 or even 20 for older and more advanced children. Size-wise, perhaps aim for cards sized at about A6 (a quarter of an A4 sheet) or even A7 (A4 divided into 8).

Number Order Games

Once you have a set of numbered cards, first ensure your child recognises the numbers and can say their names. Then, get your child to jumble them up. They should then place each card on the table or other flat surface and try to move them back into the correct numerical order. The idea is to end up with the lowest number on the left, going in order until they have correctly placed the highest number on the right. Ask them to count them out loud, from left to right, once complete. Praising and congratulating them when they do well will encourage them but, of course, help them if they struggle at first.

Once they’ve mastered the first game, make it more challenging by asking them to reverse the numbers and, when complete, count the numbers backwards.

Getting More Advanced

When your child becomes more advanced, perhaps shake things up a bit by hiding a number and seeing if they can tell you which one is missing. Later still, you could even miss out all the odd numbers, so they have to play the game with only even numbers, then do it the other way around. Learning to count all the odd or even numbers will be another useful and practical skill as they get older.

Number ‘Dot’ Cards

Number 'dot' cards give children a practical example of the number's meaning and help them better understand quantities.A more advanced form of the number cards could depict the correct number of dots (or other drawn objects) instead of — or as well as — the actual written number. So, for example, the ‘3’ card could show a column or row of 3 round dots or squares or even something like 3 drawn strawberries — whatever your child likes! In a way, it’s a bit like traditional playing cards where each has both a number and the right amount of hearts, diamonds, clubs or spades on it, to match the number.

The benefit of this, more advanced type of card is that children will be able to see (and count), for example, two ‘dots’ on a ‘2’ card, four on a ‘4’ card, and so on. By using this approach, children will have a visual clue and practical example of the number’s meaning and, crucially, it will allow them to recognise and better understand quantities.

Introduce Simple Addition & Subtraction

When your child is more advanced using their number cards, a gradual introduction to simple addition and subtraction concepts will come easier — particularly if they use the cards with the numbers depicted with the dots/symbols. So, when you ask them what happens when they add a 2 and a 3 together, they will be able to count (or, with practice, recognise) the quantity of symbols on both cards. Before long, they’ll grasp the underlying concepts and be able to do it in reverse (subtraction). You could also consider adding mathematical ‘symbol’ cards into the pack, for example, ‘plus’ and ‘minus’ symbol cards.

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Ensure you give your child a round of applause when they get things right in any of these games — it will give them encouragement to keep going and also give them a sense of progress and achievement. Consider awarding them a prize or sticker to celebrate their achievements.

Number Matching Games

Dominoes are a great way for children to learn about number matching.This next game will require a set of dominoes or, if you don’t have a set, they’re also easy enough to make in a similar way to the number cards. As you may know, each half of every domino has a number of dots, most commonly from 1 to 6. So, for example, there might be two dots on one end and five on the other, with the dot formations being rather like those you’d see on dice.

Whether using real dominoes or a homemade paper alternative, this game is traditionally played with 2 people. However, for the purpose of today’s game, it can be played just as well by a solo child, although under-fives will benefit most if they have some adult supervision and feedback. The idea of the game is to lay down one domino. Then, the next domino will need to be laid alongside one end of it so that the touching numbers match. So, for example, if the first domino has a 2 at one end and a 5 at the other, the second domino will need to have at least one number that matches and that should be placed so the two matching numbers touch. This is repeated so more and more dominoes are added, each time with a matching number connecting to an existing domino. Although traditionally there is a winner and a loser in dominoes, if playing solo, the idea here is simply for children to learn to easily recognise the number of dots. It’s a great way for children to be able to instinctively know whether they are looking at 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 or 6 dots — recognising the quantity and associated number will become instinctive if they practise.

Quantity Estimating Games

Counters can be used by children to learn maths vocabulary like more, less, taller, shorter, etc.Understanding whether a quantity of something is more or less than something else is an important concept for children to grasp. Similarly, being able to estimate a quantity is a useful and practical skill for little ones to master. Such concepts can easily be highlighted, and the skills mastered, using simple estimating games. Some examples follow.

With the help of your child, build two stacks of one kind of object (e.g. draughts counters, biscuits, drinks coasters, etc.) and ask your child to confirm which stack they think has more than the other — without actually counting. Take some away or add some and repeat the process. They’ll soon be able to confirm the answers more accurately and grasp concepts like more, less, taller, shorter, and so on. This is a simple but practical game that will exercise children’s estimating skills and improve maths vocabulary.

Once they’ve mastered simple stacks of identical components one directly on top of another, you could make the game more challenging. There are a few ways to approach this.

  • It can be achieved by making the stacks more complex, for example, in layers of different quantities — a pyramid format would be a good example.
  • Or, instead of using a stack of near-identical components, try using small piles of irregular items, e.g. vegetables or fruit. Due to the different sizes and shapes, these will be more of a challenge and will get children thinking and concentrating harder.Counting and estimating irregular-shaped items like tomatoes and fruit will be a more advanced challenge for preschoolers.

As before, perhaps take away or add more objects to one or more of the groups and ask them to estimate which has more and which has less. Also, ask them to estimate, using logic, how many components each group has. You could even take it a step further by adding piles of objects to scales. Ask your child which they think is going to be heaviest, which is lightest, and so on.

Such games and challenges are a great workout for children’s young brains and great ways to introduce new number- and quantity-based concepts to children’s worlds, all in a fun way. They will also help little ones introduce new maths terminology into their vocabulary.

The Shop Game

Playing shops is a great way to make counting, numbers, and even money fun!Pretending to be a shopkeeper or a shopper buying from one is a great next step for children. What’s more, they’ll naturally love playing shops having, no doubt, accompanied parents to real shops. This is where they can put all the things they’ve learned from the games above into practice. They can check they have the right quantities, weights or volumes or products, check they’re giving the shopkeeper the right amount of money, ensure that any change is correct — and so on! Playing shops is such a great way to master numbers, counting, estimating, weighing, addition, subtraction and more!

Numeracy Skills Boost Children’s Long-Term Outcomes!

We hope that today’s activity ideas, in the form of games, help your child to grasp maths terminology and number-based concepts like counting, subtracting, adding, comparing, and estimating. Learning through play is by far the best way for little ones to learn. And, by learning about the application of number concepts through games and activities, they will be able to experience real-life applications of them. It will naturally make more sense and make learning about numbers and counting child’s play!

What’s more, an early boost to numeracy skills has been proven to enhance outcomes for children even in the longer term. Studies show that the benefits of number mastery include a propensity to stay in education longer, better job prospects, and improved earning potential as adults. That’s the power of understanding numbers!

Little Cedars Nursery, Streatham

Ofsted rates Little Cedars Day Nursery as a Good ProviderLittle Cedars is a nursery & preschool offering high-quality childcare in Streatham, near Tooting, Tooting Bec, Tooting Common, Tooting Broadway, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury and Colliers Wood.At Little Cedars Nursery in Streatham, we also take every opportunity to help children learn about numbers, how they work, their significance to everyday life, and the maths vocabulary that surrounds them. It’s all an important part of the EYFS curriculum and something they’ll benefit from profoundly as they grow older – crucially too in readiness for school. If you would like to explore the possibility of your child attending this wonderful nursery and preschool in London SW16, please get in touch or simply apply for a place (see the options below). Little Cedars Nursery is officially a Good Provider and supports eligible children through various government-funded childcare schemes, including those for eligible babies from just 9 months.

As well as being perfectly located for families looking for nurseries in Streatham, Streatham Common, Streatham Park and Streatham Hill, we may also suit those seeking high-quality childcare near Tooting, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury and Colliers Wood.

Apply Now for the ‘30 Hours’ Childcare Scheme for Working Families – for Children 9 Months+

[May 2025]: Applications are now open for the final “30 hours” expansion of the Government’s free childcare scheme for working families. The new, expanded childcare hours are for eligible children, aged 9 months up to 3 years by 1st September 2025, attending nursery from that month. It doubles the previous number of hours available under the scheme, potentially saving eligible families as much as £7,500 per annum per child. The extended childcare hours will also allow parents — particularly mothers — improved potential to get back into work or take on more hours. Either would increase both household income and the greater economy. Most importantly, though, increasing access to high-quality early years childcare will give children the best start in life, enabling them with the skills and tools necessary to thrive once they leave early years settings to begin school.

Don’t delay — if your child is eligible, you can now apply for the September 2025 term but you only have until the 31st of August in which to do so. That deadline will be here before we know it, so act quickly if you want to benefit from the expanded childcare funding from September 2025.

The changes will make a “massive difference to children and working parents”— Bridget Phillipson, Education Secretary.

Here’s a snapshot:

  • Who can apply? Eligible working families with a child aged 9 months up to 3 years by September 1st 2025.
  • How many funded hours will be available? 30 hours per week over 38 weeks per year term time (1140 childcare hours over the year).*
  • When can families start to apply? From 12th May 2025 for a September ’25 term start.
  • When is the application deadline? Apply no later than 31 August 2025 if you want your child to start nursery in the September 2025 term.
  • What About Children Aged 3 and 4? 3-and-4-year-olds of eligible working families have been able to access the 30 hours of free childcare per week (1140 hours per year) since it was phased in late last year (September 2024). Previously, only half those hours had been available under the scheme for this age group.
  • Does the funding cover everything? No. The government funding does not cover additional items like extra childcare hours over the allowance or nappies, meals, and the cost of trips. Your chosen provider will be able to provide more details specific to their particular setting. To clarify for government-funded places at Little Cedars Day Nursery, meals, other consumables, and extra hours will need to be paid for separately.
  • What if we’re not a working family? If you’re not a working family that’s eligible for the new 30 hours extension, it’s worth noting that all children who live in England already qualify for 15 hours per week (570 childcare hours per annum) under their ‘Universal Entitlement’. That is a separate scheme that’s explained here, does not require parents to be working, and is not means tested.

* Some settings may allow some flexibility, for example, by spreading out the same number of annual hours over more weeks of the year. For the academic year 2025-26, Little Cedars will accommodate families in this way via a 51-week provision starting in September 2025. Click here to learn more.

This is a plan “to break the unfair link between background and opportunity across this country, which starts by ensuring our children start school ready to learn.” — Bridget Phillipson, Education Secretary.

Eligibility

The key rules around eligibility for working families state that both you and your partner if you have one must:

  • Click the link below for an overview of the 30 Hours childcare funding scheme available to eligible children, from 9 months of age, from September 2025.Work at least 16 hours or more per week at the National Minimum Wage or more;
  • Earn an adjusted net income of less than £100k per annum;
  • Have a National Insurance number.

If the above factors do not apply to you, you may still be eligible for childcare funding if you are disabled, a carer, on maternity/paternity/adoption leave, or receive certain benefits or assistance from the government. Check your eligibility more comprehensively in Step 1 below. More details and an excellent overview are also provided in an official video provided by the Department of Education (viewing time: 2½ minutes).

To-Do List

  1. First, check that your child is eligible via the Childcare Choices website.
  2. If eligible, apply for the funded childcare on the Government website by 31 August 2025 if you want your child to start in the September 2025 term. If applying for a different term, you will need to apply during the term preceding it (terms begin on the 1st of January, April and September). Once approved, you will be issued with a code that your childcare provider will require in order to access the funding.
  3. Contact your preferred childcare provider at any point to check if they have a place available for your child under the scheme. Be aware that some have waiting lists.
  4. Log into your Gov.uk childcare account every 3 months to ensure your code is kept up to date. You need to reconfirm your details and check for continued eligibility in case your circumstances have changed.

You will not be able to receive the funded childcare without a valid code!

Funded Nursery Places at Little Cedars Nursery, Streatham

Little Cedars is a nursery & preschool offering high-quality childcare in Streatham, near Tooting, Tooting Bec, Tooting Common, Tooting Broadway, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury and Colliers Wood.Ofsted rates Little Cedars Day Nursery as a Good ProviderLittle Cedars Day Nursery is a wonderful childcare setting in Streatham, close to Tooting Common, that offers a first-class service to local families and their children. The setting supports most government-funded childcare schemes and thereby provides affordable childcare for Streatham, Furzedown, Tooting and Balham families. Through the government funding schemes, free childcare is available to eligible children aged from 9 months to school age and this includes a number of places available under the extended ’30 hours’ scheme for working families. It’s the perfect way to give children the best start in life while also allowing parents, especially mothers, to rejoin the workplace after maternity leave, boost working hours if they want to, and elevate household income.

Begin your application to Little Cedars Nursery, Streatham, come for a visit with your child or send us your questions today. We can’t wait to meet you!

Little Cedars Nursery in Streatham is rated as a Good Provider of childcare and early years education by Ofsted. It may also be a convenient choice for families living nearby in Tooting, Furzedown, Balham, Norbury and Colliers Wood.